Well
life has always been that unpredictable and part of it has to deal with
sudden misfortunes and problems. Now your job is to get through it and
move on, detach yourself from what's not helpful and focus on what give
you a better day. Here are 8 ways to cope:
1. Free yourself of frustrations. Learn
to let go of some of the negative energies inside because if you don't
you'll probably find yourself exploding at one point. So go ahead and
vent them out, get a journal, talk to a friend and release the
negativity. Ventilating your frustrations will give enough room for
positivity to come in; furthermore, it will give you a feeling of relief
that can somehow change your mood and outlook.
2. Learn to be objective. Look
into the situation carefully and detach yourself emotionally asthis can
only cloud your judgment. When you learn to look at things at a more
objective view, your judgments and decisions become a little more sound
and wise. Emotions tend to cloud our judgement and that's no way to
resolve a conflict.
3. Look around you –
there are people who actually care. No matter how difficult the
situation is, you need to realize that some people are actually there
for you and that there's no need to detach yourself from them. Their
guidance and advice can actually help you get through a bad time.
4. Change your mind set. You
may think that all this emotional detachment will help you overcome a
difficult time; think again and assess carefully. If you are not that
hurt or traumatize, there might be no need to detach yourself, a little
thinking and space will help you get back on your feet. Furthermore,
keep in mind that you do have a choice – either to let these bad things
overwhelm you or to let these stuffs make you a better person.
5. Shift your focus. Instead
of wallowing in emotional hurt and detaching yourself from people who
care about you, try focusing on what you can do. You have always been
faced with difficult situations but you've always managed to get out of
it alive. What's keeping you from doing so this time then? Being
frustrated will never help resolve the problem. You need to focus on
your strengths rather than your weakness.
6. Do not be afraid to ask help. You
might feel that emotional detachment from other people have left you
with no one; you're wrong. Do not be afraid to reach out and ask for
help. Call you closest friend or your sister, talk to someone. Asking
for help is never a sign of weakness; it shows that you are brave enough
to acknowledge that you cannot handle things on your own.
7. Constantly challenge yourself to
overcome bad situations. Think of the countless times you've been faced
with trials and problems which you thought you would never surpass but
did. Use these moments and experiences as a source to fuel your spirit
to continue fighting and winning!
8. Extract the lessons learned. Detaching
yourself from people and hurtful things might be difficult but they
sure did have valuable lessons for you. Take these lessons and ponder on
them; they might come in handy one of these days. Most of the times, we
learn to appreciate the lessons after we have conquered and battled
through the fight; much like enjoying and appreciating the rainbow after
the storm.
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